1. How to be a good listener: The 2 second rule works great. Allow 2 seconds after the other person finishes talking before you talk. (Instead of spending your time thinking about what you want to say, concentrate on what they are saying.)
2. Don’t always top their story: Telling a better story than someone just told may make you feel great but you just diminished their story.
3. How to take a compliment: Say “Thank You.” People don’t want to hear why you didn’t deserve the compliment or more details. They just want to be thanked for complimenting you. Keep it short and simple.
4. How to end a conversation: “It was great talking with you.” This is the easiest way to politely end a conversation. This allows you to talk with and meet other people.
5. How to say No: You don’t have to be everybody’s friend, you don’t have to date everyone but you can be polite. “I’m really busy.” is one way to say no. “Thanks for asking but I’m not interested, but thanks for asking.” is a positive, negative, positive way of saying no.
6. How to Accept Rejection: If someone says no to you accept it. Rejection is part of interacting with people. Other people have the right to reject you just like you have the right to reject people.
7. Hold off on deepest secrets: Having people to talk to is wonderful and sometimes people reveal their deepest secrets at the first activity they attend. This is okay but you might want to consider making some close friends and then sharing with them.
8. Build your social skills: We hold monthly events and you can build your social skills over time. If you have been isolated you will find yourself getting stronger as you attend more activities and interact with more people.
9. Smile: Smiling helps you feel better and gets a warmer reception from other people.
10. Forgive yourself: Forgiving yourself and seeing yourself as someone worth loving helps others love you too.
Community Connection Activities help people connect with other people. Casual connection is sometimes a missing step. It can be the first step into getting involved and in a small group. We want to help people connect to make friends and have the opportunity to help their community as well. Our mission is to connect people.
Conversation Card & Files
The Conversation Card is a powerful tool in connecting people. The three questions on it connects people at a much deeper level than "What do you do?" and "Where are you from?" We also have activity worksheets to help you plan great connection activities. You can download these files for free.
We try to share different ideas about creating connection in our blog. Some posts will be about how to create great activities. Others will be about how people can grow and create community.