TWO MAIN EVENTS
1. SPEAKER EVENT
Half hour of open talking followed by a Success and Happiness speaker for 10 minutes and then 20 minutes discussing the topic in groups of six. Then listening to a speaker on a topic like travel, cooking, exercise, etc. followed by discussion of topic in groups and then free time to talk or break into smaller interest groups like cooking, dog lovers, travel, etc.
2. ACTIVITY EVENT
Half hour of open talking followed by a Success and Happiness speaker for 10 minutes and then 20 minutes discussing the topic in groups of six. Then connection time in groups of six talking about the topic of the day and then playing games, crochet, Legos, etc. or forming favorite subject groups to talk about travel, dogs, gardening, etc.
DAYTIME AND EVENING EVENTS
People’s schedules are different. For some people a daytime event works best and for others an evening event works better. Also some people can’t drive at night so a daytime event works better for them.
It is nice to have someplace to go on the weekend. Our Friday (or Saturday) night event can be listening to music and dancing, a game night, or a movie night that people can enjoy along with conversation.
SMALLER INTEREST GROUPS
People who meet at the larger events can form their own groups based on common interests like gardening, hiking, cooking, photography, etc. that are non-divisive.
Many people spend holidays alone. We want to create a place where people can come to be with friends to share the holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, St Patricks Day, Super Bowl, Labor Day, Fourth of July, etc.
COMMUNITY SERVICE EVENTS
When people connect at our larger events they are more likely to go out with a group of people they know to help projects in the community. We can organize groups to volunteer for projects by other organizations as well as creating our own projects to help out in the community
SCHOOL CONNECTION PROGRAMS
We are also looking at connection programs for middle schools and high schools. Teaching connection skills and connecting the next generation. Teenage isolation and feelings of being alone need help. We can help them get connected.
2 Hours Free Time – 1 Hour Structured Connection Time
1:00 to 1:30 Open talk with conversation cards
1:30 to 1:40 Speaker on Success & Happiness Skill of the week
1:40 to 2:00 Discuss Success & Happiness Skill for the week
2:00 to 2:10 Speaker for topic of the afternoon
2:10 to 2:30 Discuss topic of the night in same group of six
2:30 to 4:00 Open talk or form small groups on topics of common interest and games
2 Hours Free Time – 1 Hour Structured Connection Time
6:00 to 6:30 Open talk with conversation cards
6:30 to 6:40 Speaker on Life Success and Happiness Skill for the week
6:40 to 7:00 Discuss Life Success and Happiness Skill for the week
7:00 to 7:30 Speaker on topic for the night (Cooking, Travel, Gardening, etc.)
7:30 to 8:00 Discuss topic of the night in same group of six
8:00 to 9:00 Open talk or form small groups on topics of common interest and games
The conversation card is a powerful social tool. Most people including Hollywood stars say they feel awkward talking with people they never know what to say. The secret to being a great conversationalist is getting the other person to talk about themselves and then just listening.
The Conversation Card has three simple questions that are great conversation starters. Having the card in their hand makes it easier for a person can walk up and start a conversation with someone.
People get permission to connect at this event like Meetup at public place you could talk to anyone with a name badge. Conversation card gives people courage who don’t know what to say because the questions to ask are already on the card.
POSTING SCHEDULE FOR THE NIGHT
Posting the time schedule for the evening at the entrance lets people know what to expect. After a while events should almost run themselves as people get used to the schedule for that event. It will be easy for anyone to simply announce when the next activity is taking place.
Encouragement partners are people who you can share your mess ups with and they will encourage you can do better.
SUCCESS & HAPPINESS SKILLS IDEAS AND WORKSHEETS
We also want people to learn Success and Happiness skills to make their lives better. We have 10 skills with ideas on one side and a worksheet on the other that are handed out over a 10 week period and then repeated like Benjamin Franklins 13 week self improvement plan. Helping build stronger people helps build a stronger community.
- Thankful Living: One of the healthiest habits is practicing being Thankful.
- Health Exercise: Finding the exercises that work best for you and doing them.
- Eating Healthy: Looking at what you eat, when you eat and how you eat.
- Positive Posture and Expression: Practicing a body posture and facial expression.
- Structuring Your Life: Scheduling your life to be more productive and happier.
- Relaxation: Taking time to pause and relax during your day.
- Be Good to Yourself: Finding things you enjoy and being nice to you.
- Healthy Sleep: Ideas for getting a great nights sleep.
- Encouraging Others: Spend a week encouraging and complimenting others.
- Planning Finances: Look at your finances and where you are spending money.
COMMUNITY CONNECTION CULTURE
1. Be Nice: Treat other people like you would like to be treated.
2. Listen: Developing the ability to listen is a great social skill and truly appreciated by most people you will meet.
3. No Agendas: People with agendas usually dominate every conversation with their topic. Try just talking about your life.
4. Avoid Politics and Sex: Some topics are emotional and divisive. We want to connect not divide. Please save your politics and sex discussions for after or outside our events.
5. Patience: If someone is a bit offensive, dominates discussion, pushes their ideas try to be patient with them. They will hopefully get more relaxed as time goes by.
6. It's OK to Say No: If someone invites you to coffee as a friend or a date you can say yes or no. "I'm really busy" and "Thanks for asking, I'm not interested but thanks for asking" are two good ways to say no.
7. Tender, not Tinder: If you want a hookup you may want to try Tinder. We want to promote tender, caring friendships. Treat each other with respect.
8. Become a Connector: Welcome new people and invite people to come. Be genuine and help them connect.
9. No Alcohol: Some people are struggling with that addiction and we don't want to tempt them. You can actually have fun without drinking.
10. Smile: It doesn't have to be a big smile. It can be a lip smile. Smiling makes you feel better. Smiling also makes you more approachable.
10 TIPS FOR CONNECTING
1. How to be a good listener: The 2 second rule works great. Allow 2 seconds after the other person finishes talking before you talk.
- Instead of spending your time thinking about what you want to say concentrate on what they are saying.
2. Don’t always top their story: Telling a better story than someone just told may make you feel great but you just diminished their story.
3. How to take a compliment: Say “Thank You.” People don’t want to hear why you didn’t deserve the compliment or more details. They just want to be thanked for complimenting you. Keep it short and simple.
4. How to end a conversation: “It was great talking with you.” This is the easiest way to politely end a conversation. This allows you to talk with and meet other people.
5. How to say No: You don’t have to be everybody’s friend, you don’t have to date everyone but you can be polite. “I’m really busy.” is one way to say no. “Thanks for asking but I’m not interested, but thanks for asking.” is a positive, negative, positive way of saying no.
6. Accept Rejection: If someone says no to you accept it. Rejection is part of interacting with people. Other people have the right to reject you just like you have the right to reject people. Rejection is just Redirection.
7. Hold off on deepest secrets: Having people to talk to is wonderful and sometimes people reveal their deepest secrets at the first activity they attend. This is okay but you might want to consider making some close friends and then sharing with them.
8. Build your social skills: We hold monthly events and you can build your social skills over time. If you have been isolated you will find yourself getting stronger as you attend more activities and interact with more people.
9. Smile: Smiling helps you feel better and gets a warmer reception from other people.
10. Forgive yourself: Forgiving yourself and seeing yourself as someone worth loving helps others love you too.
We hope you will come and join us to make new friends and build your community.